Wanna share whats going on? This just happened to me. He began to slither away, but we would always get back together. So be polite, but be assertive. The dates are always fun and then they drop off. . Weve had a few small disagreements that include him responding to my text messages sooner rather than later and I admit I questioned myself a few times on whether I could be with him given he was always gone. I kept saying we should just be friends but when the onslaught continued I deleted him. No, hes fine. Some signs that show your ex misses you include: Your ex wants to know what's going on with your life. Ghosting as a method for anything that goes wrong in a relationship is something that I definitely cannot accept. Its obvious that theres an underlying reason that explains this behavior. I feel within a weeks time he has already met and slept with someone else. I feel that some of this men have not just commitment issues but this behavior is not with dating with them it is with other issues in there life. Sometimes, it can be just testing your interest level, if they have reason to believe you may not be that into them. Thanks. Youd think id be over this by now but nope, Hes making it really difficult. Im not defending him in any way. Just because he beats around the bush and doesnt want to be honest with you, it doesnt mean that youre supposed to act the same way. am really confused please help. Yet he still doesnt talk to me or see me help!?! But I met this guy at work, he was not even my type and I was not at all interested in him. I would talk to them and everything was fine, and then they just stopped answering. I am a hypnotherapist and study about relationships and advise others. He read it and never replied so I took it as he no longer wanted a relationship with me so I ended contact. If we skip this one step, and pretend in our society that its ok for people to just leave when they please, without requiring responsibility and reciprocity that are BASIC, HUMANE qualities.. that its cool for people to do whatever they please we only end up demoting ourselves to disposable beings. Nothing seemed out of place. Trying not to be too needy, I supported him and waited. At first, itll be hard to ignore the one person with whom you actually saw a life together but once you realize how he tried to play with your feelings, youll then figure out that its the only right thing to do. BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!!!! You need to be met with the same openness, and not just disappear, making the relationship short-lived. We used to text at least once daily, now it has been 6 days. Im just going to block his number because I dont want to wait around for a text or call that might never happen. I just dont know how will I tell him. The funny thing is that hes already been back in touch and apologized more than once and actually told me that he appreciated that I was patient during this time because he was an emotional wreck and felt like he couldnt talk to anyone. I met this guy about a month ago and we connected instantly we would text everyday, went on this amazing date, and talk about catching up after I finished exams! We were in relationship for 5-6 months and I started seeing decline in interest after 2-3 months. First of all, in his case ghosting doesnt mean that he doesnt want to continue with the relationship (as Ive learned after a year of seeing him); it only means that he want to pull away for some time and then he will be back (but you never know when). It hurted me so much since i got ghosted out. So.. Just remember, HES your backpocket guy, thats all. Frankly, I think my actions were rather compassionate. And definitely not if youre over 40. You now know this guys character. I did not respond to his last. All i can say to anyone in this situation is if you see your relationship heading in this direction, RUN!! And now I have someone constantly poking me on Facebook and sending me stickers who I consider a new friend, maybe more. If he was such a dick and could not write a word to me i figured this is not a person i could trust. During this talking he has said he has missed me and how he liked when I would be sleeping next to him because it would relax him. (shes not interested in ME she doesnt care to learn anything about me, shes only interested because i showed up, and because i happen to be a good man). You are either in or out! He has not been in a relationship where he said he felt like he wanted to marry the person except for one girl who he was friends When you see a pattern happening like this time and time again, he's probably messing with you. Anyways, he lived on the other side of the countrysent me flowers and rosses in valentines day and all that crap that girls Dream He didnt do that to the other love interests that I knew he had previously. I thought that maybe I had acted a bit harshly so suggested he looked me up on FB again, which he did. Im Well, its time I stop playing myself for a fool for this guy. Now Im seeing someone else. but then i found other pic after.. grrrrr He said I was the only girl who he ever felt protective and jealous over, but didnt want to be together. An its been 4 days since he texted me or called me. But would respect it and to call, I just wanted clarity. Me; Yeah sure Mr Fadeout. Im going through this with a guy and its so not fair that he pushes me away because I WANT TO BE THERE. It wasnt until those days after I spent the night which was his idea. These are about the only good signs he has giving me along with being flirty but more recently when talking he takes forever to reply and just doesnt finish the conversation. in other words some women i have dated became less and less someone i could be with the more i got to know them. Im sorry this happened to you. Rachel, although Im a lot older than you, I completely understand what you are going through. A guy did this to mewhy string me along? But his too! I dont want to text him again because I dont want to remind him that I still exist, i am hoping that one of these days, he will be reminded of me and at least text me. You need to move on with your life. Its really done a number on my confidence because let me tell you, I truly trusted thi mans character and would have never thought him capable if something so cruel and immature. He told me about a birthday party he was going to on Saturday. And pleeeeeeease delete those losers from your social media websites and YOUR PHONE!!! we still text each other once a week. Or even told you at all. I really needed to read all of these comments. It just hurts cause I really did fall for him and he looked me in my eyes and said how so in love he was. Most women would have given up but I continue to believe that one day, I will met this special guy just for me and so should you. Its hard but its the first step to get over someone..he might come back to you or he might not.. but chasing him wont make him like you more.. I texted him the following evening (Monday) apologizing for staying so late, and said I hope he got enough sleep. I feel so rejected and actually find it damn rude. Was that a one time deal, or was that something we could do more often. I did reach out and asked for clarification and he didnt respond. Ive tried initiating contact a few times, But he disappears mid conversation (which i find rude) And then i wont hear a peep again for weeks on end, So i stopped doing it. Answer (1 of 22): Don't he's an idiot! Definitely get back your DVDs. Im confused and dont know what to do I met this guy on POF, we texted every day from the end of sept and finally met right before Christmas We have since gone on dates and spent a lot of time together. His response was your welcome and thats the last I heard from him. He sounds excited to see you, but he always seems to be too busy to meet. Im 22, and while we were seeing each other, I was laid off from my job as an editor, and was pretty shaken up about it. Whik with him he seemed 100% enamoured and not in a cheesy try hard way. Like me, he was anxious if he didnt hear from me for a day, our lives didnt feel complete without that contact, and our meeting went so well after a year of talking, I was really in love with him, and he was too (I think!he was the one who fell first) It is now 2 months since he asked for a break and not a word, its like he has deleted me from his life. Lost some weight and was okay with things. A guy who doesn't text back until you repeatedly hit him up has no interest at all he's just trying to get you off his back. A guy can lose interest for any number of reasons and oftentimes it has more to do with him than with you. But the only thing to do now is to move on. ANNNNNNNND its gone. And thats too bad, because this is one of the few places where women can express themselves and feel supported. How about you have some goddamn feelings. So much. I laugh when he texts me by mistake my name and his bestfriends name are listed next to each other to see if he gets a quick response from me. Texts again started to get less and less. You dont want to grow old with someone that doesnt love you, do you? If a guy vanished on you, this says everything about him, not you. He doesnt want to leave a voice mail, or text. I asked what he thought we should do to slow down to which he said nothing, as it felt natural. I am perplexed, I was not spoiling his marriage, we genuinely connected on a mental and emotional level why would he just run away like this??? I was overwhelmed with feelings of being taken for granted and she was changing the terms of our serious relationship into texting buddies, not what I wanted to settle for. He calmly and adamantly said no. I still do, everytime I remember him, even after nearly a year. As it was me who sent the last email, and he didnt respond, Im staying quiet too. He said he wanted me and that he was sorry that he didnt feel well and for getting me all bothered. Shannon you are right.. Im threw as well it ducks it hurts but after reading the article above it has just helped me so much to really see its no our faults God moves out the bad for the good ones when its time God will tell us. And the worst part is we are going back to work in the Spring and have to see one another and I cant help to wonder what hes rhinking. he disappears I dissapear, in my context he is the one who nags.meanwhile I more enjoy my life without even think of him, because more I avoid to contact him, more I am busy, more I forget about him. Then I got scared and I closed myself telling him Whatsapp is not the right way to talk about that and that wasnt the right moment eather. Take care and be good! He had NEVER answered. Were you thinking about this quantitative list BEFORE dating this person? I didnt mention a relationship, a committmentjust asked, so that we could be on the same page. He wanted to meet me on a sunday morning but he was a no show. In the first month it was really sweet and smooth, its been a long time since I felt like Im loved. No movement. *There is consideration of the so called "man cave," but if he's not coming out of his man cave within a week, it's time . What I was not expecting was for him to go complete NC. I went over to his house unannounced to talk to him face to face. I started online dating and met this awesome guywe were texting literally nonstop for there days. He kept on showing clear signs of interest until the last week where his texts were getting less frequent and conversations were running short. By the time he does come back around the tables have been turned because now Im not as interested as I once was because you treated me like an option. I have been talking/seeing this guy 9 months and what started out as a fling to me turned into something much more than I had expected. He said on to give him about a week to get his stuff together and that he will call me and let me whats going on I told him. To clarify I wasnt aware that he had an STD. Ashley, what you need to do is look at YOURSELFtake a long, hard lookand say What am I worth? Apparently, YOU think youre of so little worth that its okay for men to ignore you. I dont know what I could of done differently. He insisted he still had a Crush, was articulate and seemed genuinely confused. MH I think the issue addressed in the article is that these men ghost. He lives in a different country to me and weve skyped and talked on the phone for hours but always remained friends even though we both knew we had feelings for each other. Anyway, because of that, whenever I got close to a woman my terrible self esteem would sabotage me and id play games. Three years ago I met someone while I was abroad. Thats it. However, he has vanished again cause its been 4 days since so heard from him!!! I try to say its important. You have every right to remove yourself from a relationship where you dont feel comfortable. Theyre not the right guy for you, thats all. Give him his three months and even if its a new girl, hell be back, missing you more if you were really close. The Author is correct. if he contacted me I replied, if he asked me out, I agreed only if I have time. I dont understand why they would leave it open like this. This isnt the first tIm it has happened and it keeps getting harder each time, but I think I handle it better now. Why do they go missing just to come back days or weeks later? He will text you back to say thank you and send you a compliment in return. 1. Youve been waiting for him for way too long and he doesnt deserve any more of your patience. She said no and left. It is scary for us too. Im guessing no (but would love to hear otherwise). Then suddenly he was gone without a trace. I have deleted his number, deleted the messages and whats apps as i dont want to be stupid and text him at a moment of weakness. So after several months I texted him and we agreed to see each and catch up. But the bottom line is he told you point blank he is not ready to offer you anything so you need to fall back. No response either. yeah much better to enjoy life around people who energize you, than drain your energy around people who suck. On the other hand, you might have maintained your standards and he wasnt ready to put in the work, thus disappearing. Always . He just couldnt handle speaking to her again, even though nothing terrible happened, it was going great, actually. I really wish we all can be more honest to each otherI hope your feeling better now . Avoidance is painful. Id admit now I had trust issues, I didnt want to let him in and now I know why. 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